What is love

Last night in bookclub, we had a bit of fight.

Let me put a back story on this first. My friend Tammy and I have different thoughts on love. She thinks you should follow it and do what it dictates, and I believe you need to have it, but not let it rule your life.

I think it stems from our upbringing and our mothers. Doesn't it always come back to your family? They are the ones who screw you up.

Anyway, I was telling a story about a guy I know. He has had a girlfriend for a while, and she sat him down a little while ago and said she "loved" him, but she knew that he "loved" her more. She didn't feel the relationship was fair, and she broke up with him. I don't think he could take it, and soon enough, he convinced her to come back. And now they are dating again.

So I was saying, I just think the whole situation is a mess. While she isn't blameless, I stated that he has no respect for himself. Someone has just told him they don't "love" him enough. And yet, he goes back to them.

Tammy didn't agree with me. She said he was in love. When your in love you do things like that, and I just didn't understand love.

Ok, don't tell me I don't understand love. I get love, but I understand loving someone else, and I understand loving yourself.

Hmmm. Oh well. I think there has to be a happy medium, but I just don't get setting yourself up for a fall. I guess some people love being in love.