This is right up there with "everyone has issues" for me. Everyone, even the sweet mormon 3 cubes over, has a past. Nothing has always gone perfectly for everyone.
I guess I don't dwell on mine anymore.
I was talking to Cherry yesterday afternoon. We chat almost everyday. Yesterday was the first time I had ever told her about my parents divorce or about my father. For a while, that was such a linchpin of my life and made me who I was. Now, its just something that happened.
I guess that is the definition of mental health. Something happens, you work through it, and then you move on. I'm not saying that I have completely forgotten about things. They are there in the back of my mind, but I don't have to dwell on them.
I sometimes just want to shake this into people, but now I've become a bit resigned. I think some people like to dwell. But if you keep dwelling so much in the past, aren't you just missing out on the here and now?
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Interesting post. Not sure we've ever talked about that subject. I think I held some anger about my parents divorce and about the absent relationship with my father for several years. One day I just had enough, told how him I felt and never looked back. One of the best things I ever did.
I agree with you..it's good to address and move on.
There are some people that just don't ever want to let it go, but sometimes, these are the same people that are only happy when they're miserable. And that helps to define the misery.
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