Food Czar's comment got me to thinking. He asked why would I go and spend time with people who didn't love me. I thought that was a good question. Why would anyone?
I had written down that I was going to be with people who love me. So, I really set my mind to it. Friday night, I was at a party having a good conversation when a friend walked over. I joked with them about the safeness of local neighborhoods. They then go into this whole soliloquy about how they read the local paper and look at the break-ins and how its such a miniscule number that they never pay it any mind. Their attitude was just very off putting to me. So, I told them "you know I got broken into last week." Their response "yeah, I know." And then proceeds to talk about some other party they have to go to.
I completely tuned them out and walked away. The whole time I was thinking here is this person I run into a lot and always give them a hug because they are my "friend" and yet its pretty obvious they could care less.
I decided a couple of things that night:
1) I've reached my self absorbed people quotient these days.
2) Why am I wasting time calling all these people "friends"?
3) I need to spend time re-cultivating old real friendships I have let go to seed.
I started Saturday night and continued on into Sunday morning.
I sometimes forget some advice my mother gave me about 3 years ago. It was after a bad breakup, and I was just upset. I was very honest with her and told her that I knew the guy didn't like me as much as I liked him. She said that I am too good for that. "You need to surround yourself with people who adore you."
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Victoria, I'm so happy that I comment I made inspired you so much. Bravo! Yes, and as I get older, I find out who my true friends are, and spend more time with them.
For instance, my roommate in college got a great deal of pleasure by being argumentative all the time. When I dropped him as a friend, I felt a great weight lift from my shoulders. All this time, I thought he was a great friend, when in reality he was just dragging me down. Life is too short for that!!
Always surround yourself with people who adore you ... and eat more chocolate!
And hug and kiss Penny every chance you get ;)
Your mom is so wise! You are wonderful Victoria and I'm honored and blessed to be your friend!
"You need to surround yourself with people who adore you."
Love it!!! And it's true. I think I will try making that more of a priority myself!!
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